Are Tolerations Blocking Your Success?

woman-690118_1280As an ICF certified coach, I assist my clients in identifying and removing any barriers or roadblocks to their success. This work involves looking for tolerations – a situation, a condition, or an influence of any kind that is allowed to exist and is less than ideal. It is something that is put up with or endured.

The reality of tolerations is that they eat up time, money, energy, mental space and are often a hindering influence that blocks us from having something we want. Despite the impact of tolerations on our health and well-being, relationships, productivity and money, we tend to accept them and the suffering that goes along with them as a part of the human experience. So, we continue to put up with, endure, take on, and are dragged down by people’s behavior (including our own), situations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, unfinished business, and frustrations.

The good news is that tolerations can often be eliminated. The first step is to identify any harmful and hindering tolerations and acknowledge they are having an impact on your life. My favorite tool for this work is the Clean Sweep from Coach U. With this tool my clients self assess and score four areas of their life: Physical, Health & Well-Being, Money and Emotional Relationships. Next, they develop an action plan to remove the tolerations blocking them or strategies for accepting a condition or situation that can not be changed. Often, the only difference between toleration and acceptance is attitude and approach.

Are tolerations zapping your energy and resources? Are they keeping you up at night? Are you accepting tolerations as a way of your life?

What are you putting up with right now that’s getting in the way of you having a life you love?

  • Is your calendar managing you?
  • Are you making time for the things that are important to you?
  • Are you getting enough sleep? Drinking enough water?

  • Are you saying “yes” to others when you want to say “no” to them and “yes” to YOU?

  • Is the leadership style of your boss blocking you from producing your best results?

  • Any clutter in your physical spaces at home, your office, your car zapping your energy?

  • Do you have sufficient, consistent income to meet your goals?

Are you ready to stop tolerating?

  • Who will you have to become to stop tolerating?

  • How will you stop tolerating?

  • Who can help you?

At Kefi Coaching, we assist our clients in removing barriers by identifying and eliminating tolerations. We can also help you distinguish acceptance and how to differentiate between situations that can or can not be changed.

Contact us for more information regarding tolerations and any other questions you may have. https://keficoaching.com/contact/


Cleaning Up For Spring


After much of the country has been covered in snow for the winter, I can’t help but think that dust and cobwebs is the least of our worry. Slush and sludge is more like it. Sometimes you’ve got to forgo the broom and get out the shovel.

While many of us might prefer not to live in the snow – I, for one, living in sunny California and having lived in Boston– not many would argue of its stunning beauty as it blankets the landscape, softening the city, quieting the hustle and bustle of our days. But, there is a point where it is all too much. And sometimes, it’s just unwelcome as it messes with traffic, causes damage from the weight on buildings, and even creates visibility problems.

What snow and sludge are you dealing with in your life? What thoughts have been weighing you down the most? What habits are mucking up your journey? What things do you just have too much of that are hampering your progress?

Here’s a couple of ways you can tackle your mental spring cleaning:

Use your pen as your shovel: Write down the thoughts that came to you as I asked the questions above. Get them out of your head. You’ll breathe easier and you’ll also be able to tackle your thoughts methodically, instead of having them fly around like asteroids in your brain.

Use your physical spring cleaning as metaphor: Whether you’re organizing your office or your brain, cleaning up your house or your life, you can use your physical chores to mirror what needs to happen in your heart and mind.

  • Imagine spoiled leftovers going down the garbage disposal to be bad habits that no longer serve you

  • Flush away anything clogging up your lifestyle by imagining it going down the drain as you wash out the bathtub

  • Clarify your vision as you clean the windows

  • As you mop and sweep, imagine the cobwebs in your mind being removed

Don’t forget to get outside and get some fresh air! Sweep off the porch, rake some leaves, and oh yeah, shovel some snow if you have to. Moving our bodies is good for the mind and breathing in some clean air can help our lungs and our mental states as well.

Do you have any spring cleaning tips? Real or metaphorical! Please comment below.



Does My Job Maximize My Strengths?

Maximize Your Strengths with Kefi Coaching

Do you ever feel like you are in the wrong profession, or in a position not suited to you? It’s not enough for some people to have a career path—they want to be engaged in their work and excel at their job.

Each of us is different because we have unique, natural talents and strengths. It’s our differences that are our advantage, individually and on teams. Customers, supervisors, and team members are not going to go to great lengths to seek out what makes you different. If you ever feel like there is more for you out there or perhaps a better fit, a great next step would be to discover your strengths and how to apply them in your work.

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International Coaching Federation Business Coaching Information

International Coaching Federation

The International Coaching Federation (ICF) has some great literature about what to look for in a business coach, why you should choose a credentialed coach through the ICF, and what benefits you and your employees can expect from your coaching experience.

Click the link to download literature about business coaching from the ICF.

ICF Business Coaching PDF



The Benefits of Leadership Coaching


Leadership and team building are skills that may be learned over time by experienced managers and CEOs. Sometimes there is also a need to learn these skills quickly and confidently. Business and executive coaching can be the key to providing the tools for leadership success reducing the trial, error and risks of learning on the job.

Business and executive coaching can unlock the true potential of a leader as new managers learn skills like conflict resolution and team motivation. Leaders can become empowered with enhanced self awareness, and companies can improve the performance of individual managers, as well as their entire team. Continue reading


Clear the Clutter in 2015

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The environment we surround ourselves in has a direct impact on how we feel and function as individuals. Just as an office space can lay the groundwork for a more productive workday, an overly cluttered and haphazard office can impede productivity. Going further, an overly messy or haphazard home can lead to emotional turmoil. Continue reading


Healthy Living

Healthy living

Volumes of studies have shown time and time again that our physical health plays a role with our mental health, and vice versa. Research by the National Institute of Health shows that emotional distress creates susceptibility to physical illness. A review in Current Opinion in Psychiatry evaluated the relationship between exercise, physical activity and physical and mental health, and found that exercise and physical activity are associated with better quality of life and health outcomes.

How do you take control over the chaos in your physical life if you are sedentary, sick, and feeling stuck? Continue reading