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24May

Are Tolerations Blocking Your Success?

woman-690118_1280As an ICF certified coach, I assist my clients in identifying and removing any barriers or roadblocks to their success. This work involves looking for tolerations – a situation, a condition, or an influence of any kind that is allowed to exist and is less than ideal. It is something that is put up with or endured.

The reality of tolerations is that they eat up time, money, energy, mental space and are often a hindering influence that blocks us from having something we want. Despite the impact of tolerations on our health and well-being, relationships, productivity and money, we tend to accept them and the suffering that goes along with them as a part of the human experience. So, we continue to put up with, endure, take on, and are dragged down by people’s behavior (including our own), situations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, unfinished business, and frustrations.

The good news is that tolerations can often be eliminated. The first step is to identify any harmful and hindering tolerations and acknowledge they are having an impact on your life. My favorite tool for this work is the Clean Sweep from Coach U. With this tool my clients self assess and score four areas of their life: Physical, Health & Well-Being, Money and Emotional Relationships. Next, they develop an action plan to remove the tolerations blocking them or strategies for accepting a condition or situation that can not be changed. Often, the only difference between toleration and acceptance is attitude and approach.

Are tolerations zapping your energy and resources? Are they keeping you up at night? Are you accepting tolerations as a way of your life?

What are you putting up with right now that’s getting in the way of you having a life you love?

  • Is your calendar managing you?
  • Are you making time for the things that are important to you?
  • Are you getting enough sleep? Drinking enough water?

  • Are you saying “yes” to others when you want to say “no” to them and “yes” to YOU?

  • Is the leadership style of your boss blocking you from producing your best results?

  • Any clutter in your physical spaces at home, your office, your car zapping your energy?

  • Do you have sufficient, consistent income to meet your goals?

Are you ready to stop tolerating?

  • Who will you have to become to stop tolerating?

  • How will you stop tolerating?

  • Who can help you?

At Kefi Coaching, we assist our clients in removing barriers by identifying and eliminating tolerations. We can also help you distinguish acceptance and how to differentiate between situations that can or can not be changed.

Contact us for more information regarding tolerations and any other questions you may have. https://keficoaching.com/contact/